When you and your spouse decided to separate and divorce, you knew that you’d likely have to share custody. You were fine with doing that, but since then, every drop-off and pick-up time has been a nightmare for you. Your child is always crying, the other parent is aggressive and rude and you’re exhausted by taking part in these exchanges multiple times a week.
When the custody arrangements you have in place aren’t working out or don’t appear to be in your child’s best interests, it could be helpful to go back and discuss other options. If you and the other parent can’t get along, there may be other alternatives that allow you to exchange custody without interaction or to change the custody order to reduce the number of interactions you have.
When your ex is rude, abrasive and aggressive, ask about court-monitored software
If you’re having problems with your ex in terms of aggressive or hurtful communication, then you may want to look into using a court-monitored app to communicate. You could also look into meeting at “safe spaces,” which are usually police stations or fire departments where custody can be exchanged. Sometimes, those facilities also let one parent drop off a child, leave, and then wait for the other to arrive.
Using court-monitored software and choosing to do drop-off and pick-up times at public places may cut down on negative interactions, which can be better for your child overall.
Concerned about your child’s behavior during custody exchanges?
If your child’s behavior seems out of the norm when you go through custody exchanges, you may want to sit down with them and see why they’re feeling however they are. If you suspect that they are being mistreated, it may be a good time to look into altering your custody arrangement.
Depending on the situation, there may be several ways to resolve the problems that you’re dealing with. You don’t need to put up with upsetting custody situations in the long-term when there are legal supports to help you. Good legal support and communication with the court may help you sort out problems with custody.